While love is usually discouraged in the workplace, it can hold a valuable place among supervisors, managers and their employees.
The Rev. Tony Ede, the pastor of First Evangelical Lutheran Church in Manchester, gave a presentation about the five love languages and their importance in the workplace during an AMP’T (Advancing Modern Professionals for Tomorrow) luncheon, Feb. 21, at Hart Ridge Golf Course.
“Sometimes we can spend as much time with our co-workers as we do with our families,” said Ede during his presentation. “It is important to let them know that they feel appreciated.”
The five love languages are a topic shared by author Gary Chapman in his book, “The Five Love Languages.” Chapman has written a number of books about this concept for various audiences, such as workplaces and schools. The New York Times bestselling author has also written editions of his book that reach out specifically to singles, military members, men, those with Alzheimer’s, teenagers and more.
Chapman wrote that using the five languages in the workplace “helps supervisors and managers effectively communicate appreciation and encouragement to their employees, resulting in higher levels of job satisfaction, healthier relationships between managers and employees, and decreased cases of burnout.”
Ede explained Chapman’s writing to an audience of Manchester professionals. He said that, of the five love languages, each person usually has a primary language, a secondary one, and an “opposite,” or one that they would rather not receive.
According to Chapman, there are five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time and Physical Touch. While some people may recognize their preferred languages by looking at the list, an online quiz developed by Chapman can guide those who are unsure toward their preferred love languages.
“There are so many tests and quizzes nowadays that are part of a new employee on-boarding training,” said Ede, “the love languages test should be a part of that process.”
The love languages do not have to be romantic. Ede said that the five languages can help people show their appreciation to friends, co-workers and anyone else. “It is our responsibility as leaders to navigate the languages of others.”